So this bit is very interesting to me...



A number of personality disorders, BPD and NPD are the first that spring to mind, list sensitivity to criticism as a diagnostic criteria. But this study would suggest everyone is so sensitive to criticism it shuts down large portions of their brain. So are those with these disorders truly more sensitive to criticism, or just worse at hiding their sensitivity to it? Do they fight or flee when most people have been rigidly trained to freeze? e.g. is it really their level of sensitivity to criticism that's the issue, or just how much we like the way they handle it?

There seems to be a lack of clarity and specificity there.

There's tons and tons of research in the behavior analysis literature that shows feedback is one of the most effective interventions for changing behavior in organizations and businesses as well as clinically.

The problem is people often mistake 'criticism' or 'complaining' for feedback, or only provide corrective feedback and never positive feedback, or the feedback is vague and subjective, or the feedback is too delayed, etc.

Despite the fact that shitty non-evidence-based practices cost business a LOT of time and money, they still cling to them. (See businesses still using Myers'-Briggs despite psychology dropping it like a bad habit.) Its what happens when you promote people to the level of their incompetence based on their skills in a non-management area.

I believe in the kind of feedback where I slowly train desirable behaviors by laughing at people's jokes or giving them candy.

I'll let you know if it works when SE is perfect.

Also, I find you very funny and your jokes are excellent.

Excuse me, I understand there is candy?

Sorry, the only thing left is salted liquorice.

I've noticed something like this in the board game equivalent of a try hard. This person is always critiquing or offering advice on other people's moves, but the advice is poison. The advice or critique isn't bad per se, it's just more neutral. But the key effect it has is distraction, so you're focused on a tree instead of the forest. Well, I've also noticed a concerted effort to just trail the leader in any game while constantly pointing out who's in the lead. This coincides with whining about any attack on him and critiquing it as a bad move, then boasting after the game about how he knew he had the win all locked up all along.

That does sound more like lack of empathy, though. But then again, gaming social interaction is a sign of lacking empathy.

Why do I feel like I am going to lose if I point out something about your post comment?

It's a test. You passed. Or failed. According to the article I am not qualified to say!

"Here's my reaction: when you spelled "lose" with two "o"s, that's exactly where you lost me. Here's what worked for me, and here's why: when you spelled all those other words correctly, unlike "lose", because when you spell it "loose", it means something else to those of us who speak English. What is it about spelling it "lose" that you're struggling with, and what have you done in the past to avoid spelling it wrong?"

Right! Interesting. Strange that it never occurred to me earlier. Yeah, sorry, not my mother tongue, this English.

Could have fooled me! I figured it was just a typo.

Damn! me and my loose lips.

Loosing it up:
Charlie Feathers - One Hand Loose.wmv

idiot. you got it all wrong.